Hm. There's a lot to say about this topic, and already a ton of supposed solutions to it on the internet. My intention is to keep things short and sweet, effective, and DIFFERENT from what you've already heard.
Let it be known that what I am sharing comes from my own experience, for I used to feel VERY emotionally insecure and anxious. I've invested well over $20k into my emotional, psychological, and spiritual development.
Mind you, that money was primarily my parents. Regardless, it was me who requested that investment - they did not make me do it. Point being, it is important that I take care of my well being, especially in the past when I felt very insecure and unloved.
Now a days, I spend most days feeling grounded, connected, and happy as a "default" state. Here's a brief explanation of how that transformation happened.
- Mind: The Root Cause
Awareness of the mind being the root cause of my unhappiness is the biggest key, and first step. It wasn't the whole enchilada, but it is the primary discovery that led me to emotional security and more so freedom.
The mind creates identities in the form of beliefs, and it attaches emotional states to said beliefs. From childhood, we all create identities that anchor emotions. Some of those emotions are traumatic and of the "negative" variety.
In essence, our brains take over our soul, and we become a walking brain as opposed to a living soul. You must reconnect to your soul and become aware that you are not the mind. That's step 1.
If you're confused as fuck about what that is or means, don't worry. If you get exactly what I'm saying, you've won a big battle already.
2. Feel Again
The second part that has made a HUGE different is consciously FEELING my body. I had no idea how disconnected from my emotions I was. Not just emotions, but literal body sensations I often didn't feel.
I spent most of my teen years and early twenties in my head, disconnected from my body. It didn't take long, but I had to train myself to feel my body again. However, ever since I started feeling again, my life has transformed.
In my experience, it was the combination of understanding the mind, practicing awareness in different forms, and training myself to FEEL again, that emotional security was possible.
So if you're someone who experiences emotional disconnection, consider that you spend life in your head and not in your body.
Emotional security isn't a mental thing, it's a feeling thing.
I actually thing that a constriction in the BODY is what creates the feeling of insecurity. Relax the body, relax the mind, relax the emotions.
Try it!
That's it for today.
TIRED AS FUCK RIGHT NOW. IT's 1:21am and I've been grinding on all kinds of shit all day. AND I have to get up in 1 hour to DRIVE to Arizona. YAY!
Peace out,
G
